Sex and Relationship Therapy

Sex and Relationship Therapy

Sex therapy is the opportunity to talk through any issues arising for you related to your sex, gender, and sexual identities/preferences and to work through the goals you have both for yourself or within your relationships.  It is a talking therapy, you will remain fully clothed and no touch is involved. If you are looking for a somatic (body/touch) therapist, please go here https://www.somaticsexologistsaotearoa.nz/. Sex therapy is for all people aged 16 years and above (in Aotearoa/New Zealand) and all walks of life are welcome.

Relationship therapy is more broadly focused on improving friendship, developing communication, improving intimacy, and addressing conflict, affairs and infidelity within your relationship/s and is attended by you and your partner/s together. When a sexological issue is affecting the relationship attending therapy together will most likely provide better outcomes than individual therapy. (Attending relationship therapy might result in you having more and better sex if that is what you desire! Win, win).

Sex therapy and coaching provide the opportunity to work through your experiences and have them normalised, ask questions, and find out factually correct information on ‘hard to discuss’ topics with the safe and non-judgmental support of a professional who is clinically trained, trauma-informed, non-judgemental, and sex-positive. Therapy helps with; adjusting to loss and changes, learning how to have intimate conversations, and improving communication.  Also, to develop body literacy, and to understand and improve consent, pleasure, desire, fantasies, intimacy, and your sexual and attachment feelings, behaviours, and experiences.

Examples of why people may engage with sex or relationship therapy include, the desire to work through:

  • disclosed or discovered affairs & infidelity,
  • unsatisfying sex lives, different sex drives,
  • navigating expanding desires and explorations in relationships,
  • navigating different relationship configurations, consent and boundaries,
  • problems with physical or emotional intimacy,
  • neurodiversity and sensory-related concerns,
  • calibrating to a healthy relationship with pornography use, and balancing the relational effects of pornography use and intimacy,
  • changes affecting sexuality and identity such as; becoming a parent, life cycles – perimenopause/menopause, ageing, disabilities, injury, or surgery
  • understanding asexuality,
  • barriers to intimacy due to cultural and/or religious beliefs/upbringing,
  • medicalised sexual difficulties i.e lack of arousal, pain, erectile dysfunctions, sexual compulsions
  • trauma and childhood adverse experiences affecting present-day identity and sexual experiences
  • gender-related identities and adjustments,
  • other sexuality-related questions and concerns.

Therapy sessions can be booked below. These sessions are available online via Zoom. Please note that if you live in the Taranaki region and would like face-to-face therapy sessions this may be an option. Please use the 10-minute online ‘meet and greet’ to talk through your specific needs. Session options include:

  • A free 10-minute meet and greet consult to determine if we are a good fit to meet your needs and to decide what appointment structure will suit you,
  • Brief intervention sessions of 20-30 minutes for individuals for sex coaching/education purposes,
  • 50-minute sex therapy sessions for individuals,
  • 65-minute relationship therapy sessions for couples (two people)
  • 90-minute relationship therapy sessions for couples (two people)
  • 90-minute relationship therapy sessions for those in a relationship of more than two people(CNM), (three+ people)
  • Three-hour and 30-minute initial assessment session for couples with ongoing 65-minute relationship therapy sessions as needed.

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